JUDGMENT IS OFTEN CAST WITHOUT FULL INVESTIGATION
The attendant where I get gas was sad. The man in front of me said she should try smiling or stay home because of her mood. She responded: "I'm sorry, my mother died this morning and I need to be at work because I need the income to support my children"
Herbert Spencer, A British philosopher is given credit for the following quote:
There is a principle which is a bar against all information, which is proof against all argument and which cannot fail to keep a man in everlasting ignorance. This principle is contempt prior to examination.
The irony of this quote is it did not originate by Herbert Spencer. After further investigation, it was penned nearly a century earlier by William Paley.
When we learn not to judge, we may be able to free ourselves of resentments. Resentment often substitutes for self validation. Its much easier to blame rather than take responsibility.
We don't have to put ourselves in the path of peril. We can be more understanding of them yet move out of their way of hurting us.
Have empathy for those who use others to validate their weakness. Remember, they are going home with that behavior tonight.
Don't be in a hurry. Say hello or good morning before jumping into the conversation. Say thank you, not Thanks. Say I love you not 'Love ya.
Ive been both and am happy to say "I love you".
Professionals may judge me based on their book learning rather than getting to know me. That is their life. So sad.